Q&A Forum - June 2019 (Best of Elise)

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After studying your work I realized that he has been slowly introducing me to the lifestyle by, for example, doing chores around the house and treating me like a Goddess女神 — a woman treated as divine. I realized that I had enjoyed this and agreed to introduce some aspects of the femdom女性支配 — female domination lifestyle to our relationship straight away. However I am finding this harder than I had anticipated and would value your advice. I know that these are quite common issues, and I have taken heart from advice in your Q&A forum. I also know that you must receive a huge number of emails and maybe won't be able to reply. I am writing to you partly to help me understand my issues better myself.

My first problem is that although I love the things he does now to treat me like a Goddess女神 — a woman treated as divine, such as kissing my feet and taking over household chores, I generally find it difficult to tell him to do them. Although I have dominant thoughts, particularly in the bedroom, I find it hard to verbalize them. I guess this is related to the other issue I am fining it hard to deal with, which is the idea that either person should have the upper hand in a relationship. I know that in most relationships one person is generally slightly more dominant, but I guess what I find hard is the idea that either partner is 'better' than the other.