Q&A Forum - June 2005

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A. First of all you need to separate the fantasy from the reality. This is going to be one of the themes in my next book because I think it is vitally important. I devoted the final chapter of “Female Domination” to the importance of staying rooted in reality but I want to further build upon this (while also sharing how real people have real experiences that to some are the fulfillment of fantasy).

There is nothing wrong with fantasy as long as it doesn’t rob you of a potentially satisfying relationship in reality. Your fantasies are the results of your inner nature and inner desires. But you must never lose sight that the mind can go places that the body cannot go. In your fantasies, all D&S activities are safe and possible because they only exist in your mind. But in reality, not all D&S activities are safe and possible because of the effects on the body. In addition, a fantasy has a tendency to be totally self-centered as you are completely focused on what stimulates your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature and your sexuality. Whereas the reality of FemDom女性支配 — female domination is that your focus must be on the woman in order to stimulate her in order for the D&S to be equally fulfilling. You have to stimulate a woman’s dominance if you want her dominance to feed on your submission.