Q&A Forum - June/July 2018

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That goes with any activity. If I was going to drip hot wax onto his ass臀部 — the buttocks, I would let him watch me light the candle and I would tease him, make him expect it. Perhaps I would blow out the candle and set it down and take an eye-dropper full of water and drip that on his ass臀部 — the buttocks instead. His mind is expecting hot wax but instead it will feel cool water. This is another example of mind games.

These are some examples of how I would use mind games during a D&S scene. The whips, the candle, the dildo假阳具 — a toy shaped like a penis, are all props and implements of discipline. But it is my voice, my willingness to tease and torment, my sexuality, my beauty that gets inside of his head and draws out his submission. I learn what buttons to push and then I use that knowledge to my advantage. Each man is different so you have to learn what buttons to push to stir your man's submission. Once you gain that knowledge, the rest is easy.

Q. Ms Sutton, have you ever heard of the book "War On Boys?" There is an effort on the part of feminists to erode the base from which boys are given adequate sense of self-esteem.

The disillusion of boys begins early, when energetic young boys have a hard time sitting still like their female classmates and quickly are branded "discipline problems." As they mature, those who don't have male role models at home (a scenario growing more commonplace because of rising divorces and single parenthood) are unlikely to get them at school. Only 23 percent of public schoolteachers are men.