Q&A Forum - March 2009 (Best of Elise)

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A. We all must begin somewhere and it sounds like your wife has succeeded in finding that which brings out your submission to her. We were talking about psychological triggers in a previous post and it sounds as if your wife has discovered a trigger within you.

I wonder, is it the physical aspects of what she does or the mental aspects? Maybe you become so submissive顺从 — willing to obey toward her and more eager to do chores for her because of the humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose facet of your so-called masturbation sessions. It could be that your submission responds to the mental imagery that your wife has this much power over you and that she does not allow you an easy and pleasurable orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax through traditional sexual activities. Instead, she humiliates you and she makes you suffer for her, as she trains you to equate her control and her power with your pleasure. And perhaps it is this dynamic that stimulates your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature.

Regardless, it works and hopefully she can build upon this. Just make sure that you continue doing those dishes. Take care!

Q. Dear Elise, I am a female reader and I have a question. I have heard that a male’s backside is far more sensitive to pain right after he has experienced an orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax. Is there any truth to this, and if so, do you know the reason for it?

Also, if this is the case, wouldn’t this be a perfect time to administer corporal punishment if you really wanted to get a message across? Thank you for a wonderful and informative site.