Q&A Forum - March 2011 (Best of Elise)

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Q. Dear Elise, my husband and I are in our late 50's with a son in graduate school. Our marriage has always been in my control, but now that we're retired "empty nesters," we are able to be more open and relaxed with our playtime and lifestyle.

Our marriage has been a happy one, but when we were younger I made a huge mistake. We had been trying to have a baby for years when my husband was diagnosed with a very low sperm count. My own biological clock was ticking and this news hit me hard. Out of some sort of crazy desperation, I had a few one night stands and conceived my son. When I started showing, my husband confronted me, and I blurted out the truth. After the initial shock, he told me he was still crazy about me and he agreed to raise the baby as his own. He's been a fantastic father and a devoted husband, and until recently he never mentioned my mistake again.

Now that we're deeper into the femdom女性支配 — female domination lifestyle, my husband is always bringing up the subject of cuckolding. He wants me to date other men and go all the way. When I first said no, he said, "Well, you did it before. You had fun and it did no harm to our marriage. Besides, it would strengthen my submission to you and be good for both of us. What's the problem?" That's the first time he ever mentioned the past and it hurt me. Usually I wouldn't stand for that kind of disrespect for one second, but I was stunned.