Q&A Forum - March 2011 (Best of Elise)

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I bet she could use your support and assistance when she makes and sells her crafts. And I bet when she skis or plays golf she could use extra help around the house which will give her more free time to pursue her hobbies. She may not don leather or wield the whip 365 days a year (and that is unrealistic) but she is in charge 365 days as long as you allow her to be in charge by submitting to her authority.

The more you submit to her, the more she will want to dominate you. The more you strive to make her endeavors more enjoyable, the more she will desire to “play” in the bedroom. I realize you need that D&S interaction to keep you motivated, and you should communicate this to her by gently and lovingly reminding her how much you need that interaction. However, your focus needs to be on meeting her needs both inside and outside the bedroom. The more you do it, the more natural it will become and the more she will expect and demand it from you. So get up each morning and mediate on how you can serve your wife and how you can please her. If you will do this, the rest will take care of itself.

Q. Dear Ms Sutton, I simply wanted to write and thank-you for your book Female Domination. I bought it recently and have been reading it out aloud to my wife and Mistress女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner. I was collared by her before we married 17 years ago. It is a lovely book that you have written and it must have been a lot of work to get all the information and to understand and present so many viewpoints.