Q&A Forum - May 2017 (The best of Elise)

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I am also very athletic, and have frequently competed against men. I notice that they try very hard to beat me, but when I win, they often get an erection. This is especially true of my boyfriend. Whether it is a board game or tennis, he clearly gets aroused when I beat him. He is embarrassed but we never talk about it.

My questions are: Why are we both embarrassed and how do we get past that? And is it common for men to get aroused when a woman out performs them in business or in sports?

Thank you very much and I wish you continued success with your life.

A. When women display dominance in what have been traditionally male dominated areas (business, sports, etc), the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature of man is touched and stirred and this sexually excites the male. Deep down inside, men know that women are superior to them and deep down inside men want women to dominate them. The male nature desires to be in submission to women. Powerful, successful, aggressive and dominant women bring out the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature in men.

However, the male gender has been programmed by the patriarchal system that men should be the dominant gender. So men are raised believing they are more intelligent, more athletic, and superior to women. Combine this with the competitive nature in males and you get a male ego that is inflated with a false sense of superiority.