Q&A Forum - May 2017 (The best of Elise)

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So perhaps at this stage in your life, you need to seek out a woman whom you can build a friendship with and in whom you can develop a deep trust. Place the sex on the back burner. Tell the woman that you decide to date that you want to bond with her on an intellectual and social level before embarking on any sexual activities. There are a lot of women who would love to find such a relationship. Then after you build that level of trust, you can confide in your new best friend about your sexuality. You may be embarrassed to tell your doctor but you will need to muster the courage to confess who you are to your female partner. That way she will not think you are gay but rather she will know what is going on with you. She will know that you are a male with strong submissive顺从 — willing to obey desires and that you only become sexually stimulated when a woman is using you sexually. Trust me, that’s not a bad deal for a woman. A woman who grows to love you will understand and she may become excited about the notion that your sexuality will revolve around her pleasure. Again, I would not confess this to the next woman you date but only after you build a trust with a woman based on mutual respect. I do wish you the best.

Q. Dear Elise, I've written you before a few times, and you've answered back promptly and with good intent - so thank you! My wife and I have been exploring a femdom女性支配 — female domination relationship for a few years now, and there are many aspects she embraces and many she does not.