Q&A Forum - November 2009 (The best of Elise)

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A. By chaste, I assume you are talking about restraining from pleasuring yourself since you are not in a relationship with a woman. Self-control and self-discipline are wonderful characteristics in a man. Sadly, few men are able to restrain without the loving but firm hand of a woman there to train them. Nevertheless, your goal should be to exercise self-control. Remember that habits formed now will be present later once you are in a relationship, and if they are negative or unproductive habits, they will have to be dealt with by the female in your life. Therefore, it is always best to develop positive and productive habits.

If you are a healthy and vibrant male, it is doubtful that you can remain totally chaste simply by utilizing willpower. You may have short-term success but it is doubtful you will be able to sustain over the long haul unless there is someone to hold you accountable for your actions. I highly encourage you to develop self-control and self-discipline by not engaging in habitual masturbation.