Q&A Forum - November 2015

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My husband has since broken off this relationship and now he wants to reconcile with me. He said when I took my hiatus from the lifestyle he still had the need to be dominated so he began to look for it elsewhere. He began seeing a Pro Domme女主人 — a dominant woman but that was unfulfilling to him. When he met this stripper he was captivated by her and the relationship just kind of happened. He promises me he never had intercourse with her.

I am conflicted as to what to do. I still love him but can I ever trust him again? I really need advice from someone who understands this lifestyle. I have come to understand from reading your site and your books how strong the desire to be dominated can be in some men. Maybe I should give him a hall pass this one time and take him back. I am also confused about the term sugar baby. The article on this girl said she had sugar daddies. In your opinion what is the difference between sugar babies and escorts? My husband said he was more sugar daddy than a client but he promises me he had no idea that she was an escort. I no longer trust him so I don’t know what to believe. What do you think?

A. This is a tough one. I can’t tell you what to do. You will have to search your own heart. I hate the whole hall pass mumbo jumbo that is circulating today. It is a phrase created by men to justify cheating on their wives as if it is as innocent as skipping a class in school. So let me begin by being blunt.