Q&A Forum - November 2018 (The best of Elise)

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That is a positive effect of female domination and your teachings. The negative of it is that I have pursued female domination as a substitute idol for true healthy intimate relationships. I’ve had countless hours of euphoric trance that is referred to as “sub顺从者 — a submissive person-space.” For over 35 years since puberty, I have been pursuing ever increasingly risky compulsive sexual actions that have included masturbation, pornography, and cross-dressing. I have wasted many dollars and hours in this addiction. Yet of all these compulsive actions, nothing could captivate me more than reading fantasy stories about wives dominating, humiliating and feminizing their husbands. I have been pursuing female domination as the hope for intimacy in my marriage as I extinguish less appropriate sexually stimulating behaviors.

In my family there is a chain of generations of dysfunctional relationships involving domineering women and passive men. My mother and her mother were self-focused and domineering. My wife’s mother was domineering. My father was passive and selflessly served my mother. My mother’s father left my grandmother when my mother turned 18 as an escape from his domineering wife. As I previously said, I have released some resentment that I held about having a controlling wife, thanks in no small part to your teachings, but I wonder if this is truly a healthy lifestyle in the long run.