Q&A Forum - October 2009 (The best of Elise)

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The problem seems to be that I think I have an addiction to porn and it affects our relationship. I'd like to get rid of all the porn I watch but it's very difficult. I just don't understand why is it so difficult for men to avoid? I really want to find the way out of this. Do you think I should tell me wife?

A. First of all, we need to define porn. I think a good definition to a man like you is, “porn is that which degrades women and that which portrays women in an unflattering light”. Porn can also be that which causes a man to have a mental addiction to self-induced sexual arousal. The female body is not porn, sex is not porn and certainly female domination is not porn. It is natural for a man to become aroused by the viewing of the female body or by viewing the dominance and sexuality of the female gender. To not be aroused at the beauty and sexuality of women would be to go against nature. So remember that erotica is not porn.