Q&A Forum - October 2010 (Best of Elise)

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Objectification play is naturally about humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose play but with most elements of objectification play there is also an element of bondage捆绑 — being tied or restrained involved. A man can drift off into subspace, induced from the helpless feeling of being a woman’s footstool, or her rug or her coffee table. But that is not the case with the desire of being used as an ashtray. Being a woman’s ashtray is heavy on humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose and it involves interaction. You have to be attentive to your Mistress女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner and you have to focus as you endure the ashes from her cigarettes or her cigar.

The bottom line is that you enjoy being an ashtray because it makes you feel humiliated and as is the case with most aspects of objectification play, you know you can never be a woman’s equal when she uses you as her ashtray. This elevates her in your eyes to superior status and your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature enjoys it. To the submissive顺从 — willing to obey male's psyche, women who smoke give off an image of self-confidence. They are portraying a relaxed, carefree, and in charge attitude and you are only worthy to be her ashtray. Of course that is not true but you like it when a woman reduces you to this level in your submission.