Q&A Forum - October 2012 (The best of Elise)

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Still, the path you've suggested to him will undoubtedly allow him to express himself in a way that I'm sure his sexuality is wired for, however the fact that his wife may not share that same wiring is a basic element that I think will eventually be the undoing of the marriage. I know your words were meant to be encouraging to him, although in the end, if it doesn't work out, I'd hate to see him feel like a failure of a submissive顺从 — willing to obey man because things didn't work out with his vanilla普通性爱 — sex without kink wife.

I hope Brian continues to write you Elise and give us updates on his progress. I'm sure his story is an all too familiar one for many hardwired submissive顺从 — willing to obey men to which a lot of us are interested, myself included.

On a personal note to you Elise, kudos for maintaining this website. It's hard enough being different like we are, but it's worse being different and alone.

A. Thank you for those kind and honest comments. There is truth in what you say but I disagree with you about the eventual undoing of this man’s marriage. As long as a man stays dedicated to his wife and serves her regardless of her response as far as the D&S goes, the marriage will be successful. Sexuality is only one component of a marriage. It is an important part but the social, intellectual and spiritual sides give it that firm foundation along with the sexual. If one area is lacking, the other areas can still support it.