Q&A Forum - September 2009 (The best of Elise series)

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Elise, thanks for giving me the chance to express my thoughts. It could easily be argued that I place too much importance on this issue. I just believe the time has come for the women of my generation to start demanding it. There are good submissive顺从 — willing to obey men out there who are willing if not eager to do it; they need only be told. To those men who might be hesitating, I would say: Make a total commitment to your wife. Acknowledge that nature has made her the superior sex and primary parent. You say you belong to her? Prove it! Prove to her that she is more important than anyone else in the world. You can do so by taking her name.

A. I whole heartily agree with you. You make a very convincing case. I didn't make my husband take on my last name out of respect to our parents and grandparents who do not practice or understand female domination. But I admire women who make this request of their grooms and I admire men who place the wants and needs of their superior bride over family and society.

In a true female-led relationship, it boils down to the wishes of the female. I wanted to keep with tradition out of respect to our elders. Had I demanded he take my last name, he would have done so. You demanded your partner take on your last name. In both of our cases, our men followed our wishes. So it boils down to each woman and what she wants.