Q&A Forum - September 2013 (best of Elise)

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Never forget that men make movies and write stories like “Used Guys” because female dominance is a common male fantasy and a fantasy is usually motivated by a real desire. But of course there is no need for a man to go to another planet or live in the future in order to serve dominant women. Women exist in reality, right here in this present day, and a man can serve a woman right here and right now.

Q. Dear Ms Sutton, My partner (of 15 months) and I have read your books. I thank you for the information into this subject because we have had many questions and you managed to answer most, but we still have one that is puzzling us.

My guy was raised in an extremely strict religious home. He has had many feelings of guilt as to why he has wanted this type of sexual relationship. Although the books answered many questions and helped us to enjoy this type of closeness, there is still one question that remains.

He not only wants me to dominate him (which I find is a real turn-on) but he wants me to inflect pain on him. Obviously nothing that will damage or permanently hurt him, but what I feel is extreme pain all the same. My question to you is where does this type of thinking come from? I need to understand why he needs this and where this need comes from before I can be free with this part of our relationship.

Thank you again, for getting us this far.