Q&A Forum - September 2021 (The best of Elise)

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A. There is a Proverb that says “To have friends, one must be friendly”. You don’t have to be assertive to gain the attention of women but you do have to be kind, considerate and friendly. I take it that you are introverted and shy. That is fine as long as you don’t use your shyness as an excuse. There is nothing wrong with being shy. In fact, that can be to your advantage since opposites do attract. Some outgoing and aggressive women are attracted to shy men. The reason for this is because nature tries to produce balance. A woman’s dominant energy is absorbed by a man’s submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature. A woman’s aggressiveness feeds off of a man’s passiveness. An extrovert and an introvert are a great match as they bring balance to each other. Since you are seeking a dominant woman, your shyness and introverted ways can actually be an asset to you.

However, you cannot just do nothing and expect to find a dominant woman. A woman is not going to leap off your computer screen and into your life. You have to get yourself around people, even if that makes you uncomfortable at times. You need to go where women are and the best way to do that is by pursuing your life interests with like-minded people. What are your hobbies? What are you interests? There are all kinds of groups that cater to singles. There are church groups, civic groups and all types of clubs and organizations. You need to get around women and then you need to be friendly.