Q&A Forum - September 2004

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Q. Hi, ever since I was a young girl, I was taught that males and females were equal, with a few differences. But as I grew older, my observations of reality told me something very different. Yet I continued to believe, or tried to believe that men and women were really equal to each other.

I almost felt guilty for feeling that women were superior but what I observed was that girls were way ahead of boys. We were smarter, worked harder and got the top grades in school. As I grew older and developed more, I also learned very quickly about the sexual power I have over men. Still, in public, I would declare equality, but in private, and especially in conversations with my g/f's, there was never any doubt that we were superior to the guys. Now I see a new generation of young women who don't even try to pretend. They say it and do it.

Now in my early thirties, I am dating a man I hope to marry. Our conversations about this topic have mostly been about how great it is that women and men now have the same opportunities. But there have been some incidents recently that caused some embarrassment about the issue.