Different Loving or Perversion? Questions about D&S, B&D and S&M

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Sometimes BDSM support groups do demonstrations on certain activities. You might want to check one out to learn how to do certain things correctly and safely. Other than a live support group, you will learn best through your own play and practice. You could buy a How To book like "S&M 101" by Jay Wiseman.

Most of the extreme pictures on the web are geared toward submissive顺从 — willing to obey men. I am not saying that some dominant women do not enjoy being this extreme with their subs顺从者 — a submissive person but the vast majority of Dominant Females as well as the BDSM community practices safe, sane and consenual play. Men may fantasize about such brutality at the hands of a woman but the truth be known, most men are wimps and they would run if they actually believed that a woman was going to be that severe. But again, a skilled Dom can make discipline feel very severe without doing any real harm or damage to the man she loves.

Q. A friend of mine mentioned that a must read for FemDom女性支配 — female domination couples is the book "Venus in Furs". Apparently it was written over 100 years ago but the author was ahead of his time when it came to Female Domination and male submission. I think a movie was written about the author a couple years ago and I think I saw it. If I am remembering correctly his character was played by Geoffrey Rush and the lead female character was played by Kate Winslet. Does this ring a bell? I believe it was called "Quill".

Do you recommend the book "Venus in Furs"?