Different Loving or Perversion? Questions about D&S, B&D and S&M

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I encourage dominant women to inflict some pain on their submissive顺从 — willing to obey and to expand his threshold for pain. This is a must in the process of allowing the woman's sexual power and dominance to come to the forefront and to help to bring out more of the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature in the male. However, a D/s relationship is about love and caring and thus the dominant female cares about her submissive顺从 — willing to obey and she is there to heal the wounds that she inflicts. A true dominant has a slight sadistic nature to her and she enjoys to see men squirm and to be uncomfortable. She does this to force him to surrender areas of himself over to her. Once the male submissive顺从 — willing to obey does this, she is then ready to comfort and love him. That is the essence of D&S.

If a person hurts another without a love for that person or the intent to bring healing, then that person is a criminal and needs psychological help. Now as far the person who desires to be hurt goes, again it depends on the circumstances. When a submissive顺从 — willing to obey is being dominated and he is losing control over to his superior female, it is a very natural thing for him to desire to be punished and disciplined by her. His mind reverts back to his childhood when the women that he loved the most, namely his mother, aunts, and maybe even an older sister, would punish and discipline him. He knew that these women loved him because they punished and disciplined him.