How To Get Started: Questions asked by the Novice Dominant Woman:

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I think for me my Dominating characteristics are more mental and they have not been so much sexual. I have read a lot of literature but it's the hands on experience I do not have much of. Can you recommend anything that I can do or information that I can read to ease my issues or bring me more comfort? I have a submissive顺从 — willing to obey that I have met and he is wonderful. We have not done a lot of sessions, as like I said I am new and I fear to some degree that with his prior experience he will become bored. Thank you in advance for all your help.

A. Every woman goes through what you are experiencing. We all were beginners at one time. The best advice I can give you is to relax and just be yourself. Keep the lines of communication open with your submissive顺从 — willing to obey man and allow him to give you feedback after each session. Ask him if you spank him too hard or not hard enough. Don't worry, you cannot spank him too hard if you keep it to his ass臀部 — the buttocks cheeks. He may yelp and use his safe word安全词 — a word that means stop if you hit him too hard and then you can make the adjustment. It is best to start out light and build up to hard. That way you can build up his pain threshold. The same goes with grabbing his balls. Go ahead, grab and twist them. They are pretty resourceful. His body language will tell you if you are squeezing too hard.