Real Life Stories - March 2017

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Your story reflects how the situations and challenges in life can interfere with and alter the D&S dynamics within a relationship. But that is just a part of life and there is nothing you or her can do about it. The good news is that circumstances can change again. Once the kids are grown and it is just the two of you again, she may desire to explore this lifestyle in a deeper way. I have seen it happen with other couples.

One final thing, you are probably correct in that your wife is inhibited due to her religious upbringing and the fear she harbors that God will punish her. That is a common obstacle to this lifestyle among both men and women. However, she must work this out within her own conscience and her own personal walk with God. I was always taught that God is love and God does not use fear. Fear is not a part of God's nature. God operates in Hope and in Faith. A child is more eager to run into the arms of the parent he or she knows will embrace them and love them. A child will run from the parent he or she feels will constantly punish them for every mistake. Likewise, we will more eagerly love and embrace God if we focus on God's loving nature. You are married and joined in holy matrimony so nothing is forbidden in the sexual realm as long as it is consenual. Just my two cents worth.

From Kevin L: