Power Exchange in the Bedroom: Questions about Strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness Play

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Q. Dear Elise, I found your site recently and I am amazed. My husband has been trying to get me to be "more dominant" for several years. I always thought he would "get over it" eventually, but after reviewing your material, I think it is for real. One thing my husband mentions frequently in bed is a desire to be "used like a girl". Do you have any advice about this? I know that it is not as unusual as I originally thought, but I would not know how to do it. (How big? for how long? can I do it in a way that will give ME an orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax?) Thank you so much for your site. I really feel more confident having seen your information.

A. I am glad that you enjoy my site. I would imagine your husband wants you to feminize him and then take him with a strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness. I would assume that is what he means by using him like a girl.

How big? Start out by taking him with your fingers. Wear a latex乳胶 — shiny rubber used for tight clothes glove, use plenty of lubrication such as KY Jelly, and take him like that. Always begin dildo假阳具 — a toy shaped like a penis play by opening him up first with your latex乳胶 — shiny rubber used for tight clothes gloved fingers. If he has never been taken like this before, start out with slender butt plugs肛塞 — a toy worn in the anus and work your way to a dildo假阳具 — a toy shaped like a penis. Remind him to relax his muscles and set him at ease in the beginning by talking to him in whispers. Always use lots of lubrication.