Real Stories - Predominant 2012, Issue 3

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Then I made him stand in the corner, with his nose to the wall, for the next two hours as he contemplated what he had done wrong. Before he went to bed, he had to kneel before me and apologize, which he did and I felt it was sincere. I also made him verbalize to me that if I want to sleep with Thomas in the future, I have that right and he must never again cop an attitude about it. I didn’t know if I would ever see Thomas again, but hearing James say this was important to me.

On the one hand, I was very disappointed in my hubby for reverting back to some bad habits I thought he was over long ago. But on the other hand, it’s sweet to know that James can still get jealous. In a way, that shows me how much he loves me. He was in the wrong, he knows he was in the wrong, he got punished, and we’ve kissed and made up. He’s making amends. He sent me flowers today and he called me this morning and apologized again. So I feel we’re making progress.

Elise’s response:

I wouldn’t worry about your husband. You seem to have things well under control. He’s allowed to have natural feelings of jealousy but as long as he overcomes those feelings by choosing submission over jealousy (which he ultimately did) then he will continue to grow in his submission to you. The fact that he admitted he was wrong and sent you flowers shows how eager he is to please you and how he will submit to your choices, even if he doesn’t totally agree with them.