Q&A Forum - August 2008 (Best of Elise)

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Rather than worrying about what your wife does or does not do to you in the bedroom, you should focus more on how you can improve as a submissive顺从 — willing to obey. Just the fact that she is a woman makes her worthy of your submission. Forget about how many orgasms高潮 — the sexual climax you are allowed and forget about the denial process at this time. Instead, focus on making your wife happy. You should be doing housework because you view her as being in authority over you. You should be doing housework because you love her.

It boils down to your attitude. Instead of asking, "How can I get her to dominate me?", you should be asking yourself, "What can I do today to submit to my beautiful wife? What can I do today to make her happy?"

It is acceptable for you to encourage her to grow in knowledge and skill as a Dominant. However, you had better never criticize her or nag her. Always encourage her to grow as a Dominant and the best way to do this is to double your efforts in submitting to her. Even if she never embraces this lifestyle to the level that you would like, you should still serve her and treat her like a Queen. Submission is a selfless servitude and it comes from the heart. Your submission will seduce her dominance. The fact that she reads my site and she feels FemDom女性支配 — female domination is important says to me that her dominance is stirring within. The problem is that you expect her to be something that she is not. Appreciate what you have and allow her the time to grow.