Q&A Forum - August 2010 ("Searching for Wanda" edition)

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Q. Dear Mistress女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner Sutton - please fill in whatever accolades you choose for yourself and the feminine gender for this de rigueur just happy-to-be-here lead-in and I’ll sign it, but let me get right to the point.

Back in my childhood when I was first cultivating the lure of the Amazon, every plaintiff plea for the wrath of the goddess女神 — a woman treated as divine that I could find emanating from the scant literature where I glimpsed the existence of the Velvet Underground, was tagged with the disclaimer to suffer bodily, but suffer "no permanent damage." It was a time when most of us were isolated, secretive and ashamed of our desire to live life in a mythological trance. We had only the unquenchable urge to know the possibilities of the cruel smile of the female sadist.

Yet we imagined this as an ongoing renewable experience, in which the body would continually mend itself to suffer anew. Since all our knowledge of the whip hand was tainted by the exploitative realm of pornography, where all this information was sequestered by cultural propriety, we did not know what to believe and were afraid that our desires would lead to ruin, if not psychological, then surely physical.

In your book “Searching for Wanda” you devote a chapter to the appeal of the Female Torturer. In that chapter you share experiences people had visiting the Other World Kingdom. It was a fascinating read but there was an element to this that I wish you would have explored.