Q&A Forum - August 2004

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Q. Dear Miss Sutton, I checked out your website and was very appreciative of the extensive resources it offers (not to mention some great erotic art!). Despite this praise, I wanted to include a criticism I had of your piece "How to unleash your female power". The first time I saw your article it was posted on the females-in-control website. I wrote the following to the editrix of that site some time ago, but I still hold to my criticism:

I enjoy your site a lot and feel that in many ways it captures the essence of female superiority. That's why I was disappointed in Elise Sutton's "How to unleash your female power..." article. Not only does she reduce submission to the googley eyed puppy love of the pre-reality check honeymooning period, but she spends paragraphs and paragraphs telling dominant woman how to dress to attract a man!

Why does this offend me so? Because the most inspiring Dominant Woman is one who carries Herself like a Queen, not one who dresses to attract male attention. A Queen could be wearing overalls and hiking boots (this one is!). Why should any self-respecting Dominant Woman conform to fashion trends in order to 'attract submissive顺从 — willing to obey men'? Submissive顺从 — willing to obey men will come to me because they will be inspired by the submission they feel in my presence. Self-respect is the only way you'll get this kind of attention, and anyway the attention is marginal to the pleasure self-respect brings me as an individual.