Q&A Forum - August 2004

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Communication and honesty are the keys. As the two of you bond and your intimacy increases, this should open you both up to communicating thoughts to one another in a spirit of trust. Pour out your soul to her and tell her how much you love her. Don’t force it but let it come forth from your heart. Let her know that you want to submit your sex life over to her as a gift and that you some times wish you could have sex with her where she is pleasured but you are not. Tell her you want to experience this because she is worthy of such attention and devotion. If done in honesty and sincerity, she will accept it and I am sure she will come to understand it. Then once she begins this practice, she will more than likely love it. Over time, she will begin to view sex as being primarily for her pleasure, but this will not happen overnight.

The key is timing and not forcing it on her before she is ready. You have to sense the moment and you have to feel that heart to heart connection. When her heart is open, that is when you can reveal this part of yourself to her without fear of rejection. I do wish you the very best.

Q. Dear Ms. Sutton, I am so thankful for your site! You seem to have a gift for understanding gender relationships. You are wise beyond anything I've ever seen on the topic of Female Domination but I am confused and frustrated by something that seems pervasive in much of what I've read.