Q&A Forum - August 2004

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I'm a submissive顺从 — willing to obey male. I want to submit to my Woman. I want to please Her. I want Her to be happy. If that means She wants me to kiss Her feet (or Her ass臀部 — the buttocks) or She wants to have sex with other men, so be it. If it pleases Her, it's Her choice and it's what I want. I want Her to be pleased. I could go on but what I don't understand is the theme of humiliating the submissive顺从 — willing to obey male.

I hope I'm not alone and I don't think I am. I have no need, desire, or goal to be humiliated. I serve my Wife with pride. Please, Ms. Sutton, what's with this "humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose" thing?

A. Humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose play is a common D&S activity but it is a mutual activity, one where the man enjoys being humiliated because it fuels his submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature and transports him to subspace. There are many positive benefits to humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose play within a loving FemDom女性支配 — female domination relationship.

Roxanne is a lifestyle dominant woman who does phone domination sessions. One of her many specialties is humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose play. I thought she had an excellent description of the purpose of humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose play which I quoted in my book.

“These men desperately need an assertive Woman to verbally reinforce their submissive顺从 — willing to obey status and sense of inferiority to Women. They are weary of pretending to be the stereotypical “real man,” and find great solace – if only temporary – in surrendering their macho pretensions and “manhood”.