Q&A Forum - December 2008 (Best of Elise)

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What you did is an important part of your life because it gave you a son, but your husband was the father because he helped raise your son. I have written before that a father is not a man who shoots his seed into a woman. A father is a man who helps to raise the child. Sperm is a dime a dozen and women can buy sperm these days and become pregnant without intimacy with the sperm donor. Medial science has made a biological father less important because a man can jerk off in a cup and the sperm can be saved and used to impregnate a woman. However, a real father is of more value today than ever because a real father is a man who assists in the rearing of children and who sacrifices for those children.

So your former lover was nothing more than your sperm donor. You may have had a good time for one night but in the big picture, he was nothing more than a sperm donor. Your husband is the father because he helped you raise your son. So this is totally different than cuckolding. What is in the past is the past and you were not cuckolding your husband in those days because you probably were unaware of the term and the lifestyle. Cuckolding is when a woman takes other lovers with her husband’s full knowledge. That was not the case in the past, so he should not use that as an example of cuckolding. Leave the past buried and be thankful that something wonderful came from it in your son.