Q&A Forum - February 2008 (The best of Elise)

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However, for her to do this, and be my dominatrix女支配者 — a dominant woman, I do have to ask, and as I have already stated she does this begrudgingly. How can I make her more interested/ relaxed and how can I ensure she gets more out of role playing so she wants to do it more without me having to ask all of the time?

A. How can I make her…? How can I ensure she …? How can I? Do you see a pattern here in your line of questioning? You can’t make her and the fact that you are attempting shows that you are not being submissive顺从 — willing to obey. You want to top her from below. You want her to dominate you but only if it is how you like it.

I don’t mean to be too harsh but I am just pointing out to you that you need a change in attitude. Here you want her to act out your fantasies and become a dominatrix女支配者 — a dominant woman but I didn’t hear one comment about what you are willing to do for her.

So here is how we will change your attitude and thus change the situation. Your assignment for the next few weeks is to get up every morning and ask, “How can I serve my wife today?” How can I make her happy?” What can I do that will please her?” “What can I do that will make her day special?”