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I thought all was well with my marriage but I guess I was wrong. We were very much in love and happy but now every time I look at my husband, I view him differently. I do not respect him as much today as I did yesterday. He feels embarrassed and he should. How can I expect to be intimate with him now that I know that he doesn't want to be my equal but wants to be my slave奴隶 — a person kept in total obedience? Every time he does chores around the house or does anything nice for me, I will be skeptical. I will always wonder if he is trying to get me to dominate him. Since you are obviously an intelligent woman, do you have any suggestions for us? Or has my husband permanently damaged our marriage?

A. Thank you for having the courage to write to me in spite of your anger. I can sympathize with your situation, in your mind all was going along smoothly but you feel your husband has compromised things by his revelation. However, lets change the focus for just a minute and ask ourselves, "Why did his confession cause you to become angry?"