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You mentioned a number of times in your question about what a happy marriage you had. Are you trying to convince me or yourself? I am not doubting that you have a loving relationship with your husband but obviously something was lacking as far as he was concerned. I believe that he was sincerely trying to reach out to you by trying to introduce this lifestyle to you. He knew there was a good chance that you would react this way but he made the decision that it was worth the risk to him. Now he must accept and live with your response.

You asked for my advice so I am going to give it to you. You are correct in that you can't go back to the way things were. His confession has forever changed the dynamics of your relationship. However, how it changes will be up to you. The potential is there for this change to be a very positive one. My advice to you is to seize this opportunity and use his submission in order to train him to be the kind of husband you desire and deserve. Look past the leather and the whip and focus on his servitude. Give him a chance to prove to you that his motivation is pure. I am sure you enjoyed it when he tended to your needs and did chores for you. Who cares what motivates him? A wise woman will find out what motivates her man and she will use it to train him.