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As far as props go, a whip is only a prop if you don't use it. But a whip is a tool in the hands of a woman who knows how to use it. If you use your cat 'o nine to administer that sting on your man, then it is not a prop but a valuable tool in the art of D&S. But to answer your premise, of course a woman does not need to use tools, toys or D&S gear. Attitude is the key and a woman can dominate a man with her looks, her aura, her voice, and her sexuality. The tools and the toys are only there to assist.

Q. Elise, I'm a little uncertain about the principle of female "superiority." I feel I'm here on earth to honor the divinity within all life. I appreciate having power and control, but it is not something I like to wield over others. That feels to me to be an abuse of power. True strength springs from within, is self-satisfied, and is a gift that I offer. I have all the power of the universe at my disposal at any moment and I feel it's my joyful duty to humbly respect that gift, not to use it to further my own ego-gratification. I'm truly curious to know if there's any way you can reconcile to me the idea that there is any value in being dominant over another. It seems to me that the dominance paradigm is exactly that which has put us in the place of destroying the earth (using the earth to our "benefit" without honoring her natural cycles & wild places), dishonoring other cultures (slavery, sweatshops, racial supremacy...) and disrespecting our fellow human beings.