Q&A Forum - January 2009 (best of Elise)

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Men like to deny the obvious by talking about it in a negative light but this is a defense mechanism in order to protect the fragile male ego. The truth is that men want and need the maternal and feminine authority of women in their lives. It is how nature designed it to be. A male child is birthed into this world by a woman, he is nurtured and raised by a woman, he is disciplined for his own good by a woman and when he becomes an adult, he still longs for and seeks out to be under the control of a woman. It is in his nature and he needs female authority to bring peace and purpose to his life. The male who lacks loving female authority in his childhood or who lacks it in his adulthood, is often a male who is restless, untamed and conflicted.

Where society fails is when women do not embrace and celebrate their authority. For too long, women have bought into a lie and have suppressed their desire to be in charge by submitting to a flawed patriarchal system. We are beginning to see that change and women are beginning to become comfortable being open about their dominance in the marriage relationship. Women have always yielded influence behind the closed doors of the marriage relationship but now we are seeing women expecting submission from their husbands in an ever-growing wide array of areas.