Q&A Forum - January 2009 (best of Elise)

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Likewise, people can be deeply in love with a limited amount of physical contact. People can connect spiritually, emotionally and intellectually and that bond can be much deeper than a purely Eros based physical relationship. This is the case both inside and outside the D&S world. There are D&S relationships where a man serves a woman sacrificially without any physical contact yet the bond between them is very strong in the mental and spiritual realms. In addition, there can be elements of Eros within the realm of the mind as the submissive顺从 — willing to obey man or the dominant woman experiences different sensations of mental eroticism without necessarily engaging in erotic passion with each other. For example, there are relationships where a woman has a husband and a submissive顺从 — willing to obey and her interactions with her submissive顺从 — willing to obey triggers erotic stimulation but she only engages in sexual contact with her husband.

Ideally, the best scenario is for a submissive顺从 — willing to obey man and a dominant woman to build a relationship where they can bond and grow on all three levels of love (i.e. a FemDom女性支配 — female domination marriage). However, there are D&S relationships that are purely about Eros and there are D&S relationships that are purely about Philia. Regardless, I endorse loving female authority where a man reveres and serves a woman and the woman dominates him with love and respect.