Q&A Forum - January 2015

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We watched a TV program recently which explored BDSM practices and Mistresses女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner. He asked me why anyone would do this and I explained to the best of my ability how lots of men require to give up their 'power' to women etc, He replied that he couldn't imagine doing that.....

I have very subtly tried to sound him out about Female Domination in the past and I believe that he is not sexually submissive顺从 — willing to obey, or rather he has no 'kinks性癖 — an unusual sexual taste' in that department! I would love it if he did but alas....

He acknowledges in his humorous way that *I* am the Boss of our relationship and he is certainly helpful and deferential to Women especially. I have him wash my hair in the bath, massage按摩 — rubbing the body to ease it me and do some chores for me (he does not live with me).

I do love him dearly, and I know that if he found out about my 'alter-ego' he would be upset and feel betrayed. I have met a selected few of my online pets for play-times (no penetrative sex involved) and now I am starting to feel dishonest and somewhat guilty for looking outside of my relationship. If he was a submissive顺从 — willing to obey male in all aspects of our life I would not hesitate to kill off all other D&S avenues. He is a cute, gentle, morally-strong, self-assured and kind man. All that a woman could dream of....except in my case for one thing, his submission.

What advice can you offer me? Should I turn my back on fetish恋物 — a strong sexual focus on one thing-oriented D&s and settle for what is a relationship all my female friends envy? With all best wishes & kind regards.