Q&A Forum - January 2003

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Q. Dear Elise, I just went into your website and it enlightens my life. I am not a natural Dom. However, my husband is a sub顺从者 — a submissive person and I have been struggling to accommodate all his role-playing fantasies. My question to you is about his fantasy of seeing a woman butchering an animal. He gets excited when seeing a chicken or other animals being killed by a woman. It's very hard for me to engage this fantasy of his. Do you have any instruction of how to get rid of this fantasy from my husband? If there's no cure for it, is there any effective way to do this role-playing to make it real without actually hurting an animal?

A. Hi, It sounds like it is time for you to become a Dom. It sounds like your husband needs some guidance and direction from a superior female such as yourself.

I must say that your husband's desire is a new one for me. I have never heard of a man that wanted his wife to be sadistic to innocent animals. Naturally, I am against the inhumane treatment of animals and I can tell by your hesitance that you are as well. My advice would be for you to tell him that you are a superior female and as such, you believe in the protecting of innocent animals. Tell him that you will gladly dominate him and control him but one of your conditions is that he never discuss this fantasy again in your presence. This is one role-playing scenario that should not be explored or encouraged. Killing or torturing an innocent, unwilling living thing is morally wrong.