Q&A Forum - July 2012

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As I mentioned in previous Q&A's, once you make that decision to explore this lifestyle with your wife and once she begins to blossom as a dominant woman, you need to follow-through. You introduced this lifestyle to her so now you need to be true to that commitment. You will have doubts and internal struggles but you need to support her and serve her. Your focus needs to be on her happiness and not on yourself. For if you will major on her and minor on you, you will experience submissive顺从 — willing to obey fulfillment.

Serving a woman in a selfless manner brings joy and happiness to a man. Trying to maintain control will cause you stress and conflict. The conflict will cease when you let go. It takes two opposing forces for there to be a conflict. Most of the time, both of those opposing forces reside within the male. You want to surrender to her because you love how it makes you feel as a man, but you also want to maintain some control because of your male pride and masculine ways. When you finally surrender to your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature, your controlling nature will weaken and will lose out to your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature. Then the conflict will lessen and eventually cease. It is a process and a journey that will have peaks and valleys but as long as you stay committed to your wife and allow her dominance to touch your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature, you will find it gets easier to surrender to her authority. I wish you both the very best.

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