Q&A Forum - March 2008 (The best of Elise)

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2) Your framework appears to be rather fundamentalist, in that the male`s function is to be subordinate to the female. I do not see a great deal of respect or love for men in your writings. While I do spank my girlfriend I still see her as of equal value to me, though our roles in the relationship are different. I want her to grow, to be confident and strong. Does your framework support loving domination of this kind? Will your writings encourage my girlfriend to be considerate, or only cruel?

3) Can women really respect a man who lets himself be dominated, and how can he preserve his own self-respect? Especially in our situation it is quite awkward, as the changes we both will have to make are quite huge. While I desire to be guided by a firm hand I will find it extremely difficult to accept corporal punishment from my girlfriend and still look other men in the eye. How do I deal with this?

4) Do submissive顺从 — willing to obey men report that their submission feels "real"? Personally I feel that going over my girlfriends lap would be ridiculous, while I at the same time desire it. I also am skeptical to my girlfriend`s ability to actually enforce discipline. It is difficult enough for me, and as a man I am used to physical roughness.

I hope you will have the time to help me with my queries, though I certainly understand it if you do not. Again thank you for sharing your understanding of the male psyche! You`re doing a wonderfull job!