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So your second point makes sense and is common and the answer to that of course is for your wife to channel sexual activities away from your pleasure and your stimulation and over more to her pleasure and her stimulation. If you have read my site you know the kinds of activities I am talking about, pampering her, orally servicing her, perhaps the use of toys, and activities along those areas that place the focus and the attention on her. That may add to your excitement, which is good, and she can then channel your excitement into serving her outside the bedroom. So she just needs a change of plan and she needs to make a few adjustments.

But getting back to your difficulty with achieving an erection when she dominates you, that could be a mental block on your part. It could be that you are having difficulty viewing her in the dominant role (due to your upbringing or your societal outlook) or perhaps she is not as enthusiastic about D&S in the bedroom as you are and you perceive that she is not as “into it” as you are which effects your ability to become erect. If she is complaining that you are overly consumed with sex, then that tells me that she might feel the Female Domination lifestyle is all about you. How you can change this is to make it all about her. Let her call the shots and allow her to decide when any D&S or sexual activities will occur, and what those activities will consist of.