Q&A Forum - May 2014

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I stand by that statement. I never said that all behavior is acceptable but what I was addressing was the value of people. In a previous Q&A (now under The Psychology of Female Domination archive) I said: “It is important to understand why people do what they do but it is more important to care for the person who is struggling with life or with themselves. At the end of the day, there really is no such thing as a dysfunctional or perverted person. But rather a special person who is struggling with who they are and why they think and act the way they do. Most people do not need to hear that they are wrong but rather that they are special.”

I have discussed the health risks of Brown showers and I strongly urge people to never engage in risky behavior that puts their health or the health of their partners at risk. But what I do not do is call people a generalized and demeaning name like “pervert”. There are psychological reasons why people desire Golden or Brown showers and the root of these desires are not necessarily based in perversion. Yes, the act can be perverted if a person puts their life in jeopardy or even worse, puts the life of another in jeopardy, simply for a sexual thrill. When a person has a desire or a fetish恋物 — a strong sexual focus on one thing that is destructive or dangerous, I am quick to point that out in no uncertain terms.