Q&A Forum - September 2004

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A. First of all, we need to define porn. I think a good definition to a man like you is, “porn is that which degrades women and that which portrays women in an unflattering light”. Porn can also be that which causes a man to have a mental addiction to self-induced sexual arousal. The female body is not porn, sex is not porn and certainly female domination is not porn. It is natural for a man to become aroused by the viewing of the female body or by viewing the dominance and sexuality of the female gender. To not be aroused at the beauty and sexuality of women would be to go against nature. So remember that erotica is not porn.

The danger of adult entertainment is that it can become porn by becoming addicting to the destruction of a healthy sex life. You are married to a beautiful woman but if you would rather view porn over serving her sexual, domestic and social needs, then you have a problem. Porn can become addicting because you begin to program your senses to only become aroused at the sight of porn. Romance and sexuality is about sight, touch, sound, smell, personal interactions and above all, love. Adult entertainment can be perfectly Ok to assist in the sexuality of people but when the adult entertainment becomes the sexuality, it is out of balance and can be harmful to a relationship.