Q&A Forum - September 2004

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One day after work, I began commenting on my workplace and the changes taking place. I told him how the women were doing so well at work, how the women were taking over the top positions and how the women were smart, in charge, and attractive. I then noticed he had a full erection as I was telling him this. I know him, and he was clearly aroused. But he was also embarrassed. I was startled, but reading your site helps to explain a little.

I am also very athletic, and have frequently competed against men. I notice that they try very hard to beat me, but when I win, they often get an erection. This is especially true of my boyfriend. Whether it is a board game or tennis, he clearly gets aroused when I beat him. He is embarrassed but we never talk about it.

My questions are: Why are we both embarrassed and how do we get past that? And is it common for men to get aroused when a woman out performs them in business or in sports?

Thank you very much and I wish you continued success with your life.

A. When women display dominance in what have been traditionally male dominated areas (business, sports, etc), the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature of man is touched and stirred and this sexually excites the male. Deep down inside, men know that women are superior to them and deep down inside men want women to dominate them. The male nature desires to be in submission to women. Powerful, successful, aggressive and dominant women bring out the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature in men.