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A. There are women who demand this out of their submissive顺从 — willing to obey husbands. Requiring the husband to take the wife's name is a powerful symbol of her dominance and his submission. It is also a powerful tool in humiliating the husband. Every time he has to explain to someone why he has his wife's last name it is an act of female dominance and male humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose.

Despite the many potential benefits to the woman in doing this, I am not a big advocator of this and here's why. Family is very important. I dominate, control, humiliate, and discipline my husband. I also love him. I love him and I love his family. I believe in female superiority and I am in favor of a Matriarch society that is controlled by women. However, we do not live in this type of society yet and thus it is important not to ignore the world around us.

If I made my husband take my name, it would be a great way to humiliate him, but it would also hurt his mother and his father who do not understand about this lifestyle. It is out of respect to them, that I didn't force my husband to take my name.

I could have kept my maiden name like a lot of feminist do, but I don't consider myself a feminist. I want people to know that I am married and to whom I am married. Therefore, it was either I force him to take my name to publicly proclaim my dominance over him, or I had to take his name out of respect to our parents and our grandparents. I chose to honor our elders.