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We don't usually open these doors in everyday life. For two people to do this leads to another form of communication. To indulge in such communication is a form of freedom. It is the freedom to allow oneself to LET GO a little, be what and who you are, and be loved for it. I feel my two year experience in S/M has been beyond liberating for me. It's been scary and exciting to explore parts of myself that

I didn't want to look at before. I denied that they even existed.

For example, I've become much more tolerant. I'm reluctant to criticise anybody's trip. My understanding of my own sexuality has been opened up. Through S/M, I have tried new things that I had once thought would not turn me on, only to find that they DID turn me on. I just continue to experiment.

C.A.: Would you say then that S/M can have a beneficial effect on people's everyday life?

KAT: I don't believe that S/M will cure problems or rectify shortcomings that a person may have. However, there may be some spin- offs into every day life. When I worked professionally, I would often tell my submissives顺从 — willing to obey to do certain things during the time they were away from me that would cultivate submissiveness in them in the straight world, such as, be more gentle, practice certain receptive behaviours, learn to be less directive and uncaring. In general, to try and let things happen TO them instead of forcing or trying to make things happen FOR them.